It ended up being one of the most read things I’ve ever written, viewed by several hundred thousand people. After seeing the impact that had, I assumed I would share my thoughts and lessons in a recurring annual blog post.
Well, 2020 has been quite a year. So here is what I’ve learned…
Plans are worthless but planning is indispensable
If 2020 hasn’t demonstrated that the future is unpredictable, I’m not sure what will.
Though we can’t
predict what will happen, we can be cognizant of chance and luck. We can
develop a robust planning process that enables us to adapt to better or worse
than expected outcomes, even if we don’t know what the causes of those outcomes
will be in advance.
March I shared the thought process I used to
analyze how to manage my and my parent’s investments amidst
extreme volatility. I reached different conclusions for each of us, then acted
decisively despite imperfect information.
Both decisions were
correct in hindsight. That has nothing to do with the short-term results that I
frankly would have never predicted. Instead, they were correct because they
were made by following a process developed from planning ahead of time.
You may never feel safe
Can I retire yet?
When people ask this question, they’re really asking: Do I have enough money to
maintain my desired lifestyle forever? Unfortunately, there are too many
unknowable variables to ever answer that question with certainty.
Ponder that for a
minute. It’s scary.
When I left my career
in December 2017, we knew Kim’s ongoing income would cover most if not all our
expenses. It was still scary to give up the security of the high savings rate
we had as a two-income household. When the market dropped a year later, it was
confirmation that we were right to be scared.
2019, the markets rebounded. We were made whole and much more. It was a rare
year when virtually every asset class went up. All investors made
money, it was just a matter of how much. But everything’s not supposed to go up
simultaneously. That’s rare. It couldn’t last. That scared us.
This March, the
bottom fell out of the stock market as the impact of the pandemic became
apparent. There were debates about whether we were in a recession or a
depression. Of course, we were scared.
As the year
progressed, many segments of the economy remained restricted. Yet our portfolio
started going back up. Over the past month, the pandemic substantially
worsened. The stock market set new all-time highs. Sometimes things don’t make
sense. It doesn’t feel real. It feels… scary.
Do you notice a theme
here? As a community of savers, many of us find security in building wealth. We
therefore find it scary to spend from volatile portfolios.
It’s normal to be
afraid, regardless of what is happening around us. That doesn’t make it healthy
or productive. Making big changes requires acknowledging our fears and taking
action in spite of them.
Priorities won’t magically change
When sharing my thoughts
one year after early retirement, I wrote priorities won’t magically change when
you retire. After three years, I believe this even more strongly.
So many of us cling to stories that simply are not true. We use work as an excuse for everything that we choose not to make a priority in our lives or that we’re afraid to do.
I’m going to be brutally honest. If there’s anything that you think you will do in retirement that you’re not doing now, you probably won’t.
There is a good
reason you’re not already doing that thing. It is not a priority in your life.
If you want things to change, you need to own that.
If you plan to start
exercising, meditating, or eating better when you retire, start now!
If you plan to become
a better spouse, parent, child, or friend when you retire, start now!
If you are going to
try that hobby, develop that new skill, or learn that foreign language you’ve
always wanted to when you retire, start now!
If you want to travel
in retirement, start traveling now! (OK, you might want to wait a little bit on
that one until it’s safe, but I think you get the point.)
So much of retirement planning is wishful thinking. I was guilty of it, and I commit to being brutally honest about it in my writing so I don’t contribute to spreading that mindset to others. I encourage you to start building your best life today, even if you can’t retire yet.
You CAN change if you put in the work
Change is hard. That’s why it is important to be brutally honest about the stories you create to explain why you’re not already doing the things you say you want to do and know you should.
When I wrote about my
first year of early retirement, I wrote about not volunteering or rock climbing
more as I said I would when I had more time. But honestly, those are trivial
compared to what I was thinking but was afraid to write.
careers, Kim and I had a good marriage. I wanted a great marriage. I used the
busyness of work as an excuse for why we didn’t already have that. Things would
be better when… That was my story.
In reality, financial
independence and early retirement didn’t fix us. It almost broke us. Achieving
our financial goals took away a unifying mission. It also eliminated our
After 2 1/2 years of ups and downs, we finally decided to get honest. And get help. We each stopped trying to change the others’ faults that were so blatantly obvious. Instead, we each learned to look inward, see our own faults, and change ourselves.
To be clear, it was beneficial to have the financial resources and time to do this brutally hard work at this stage in life. To be equally clear, it would have been much easier to do this without the 20 years of baggage we were carrying.
There’s an old
Chinese proverb. The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second
best time is right now. If there are changes you’ve been waiting to make, stop
waiting. Get to work.
Be grateful for challenges
I’ve always had a practice of gratitude. Kim and I prioritize teaching that to our daughter. We regularly give thanks for family, our health, the beauty of nature and our good financial position.
If there is one
overriding lesson I’ve learned this year, it is to be grateful for everything.
All of it.
We are a community of
planners. Translation: we’re control freaks. We try to optimize things. We
create backup plans for our backup plans.
This year I’ve wasted
a lot of time and energy being angry at things I can’t control.
a virus that took away my freedom to travel and spend time with people I love.
a lack of leadership from our government and a lack of responsibility from
an earthquake that shook my house this March, adding anxiety and fear when we
least needed it.
a back injury that left me unable to do anything but lay on my stomach for
a spouse who doesn’t share my exact values and outlook on life.
And all of my anger
left me in the exact same place… and exhausted.
In her book “Loving What Is,” Bryon Katie writes that there are only three types of business in the world; my business, your business and God’s business. This past year has taught me to live in my business and avoid spending time in the other two. They only lead to suffering.
There are many
uncertainties baked into retirement planning. Life is uncertain. We control
freaks need to learn to not only accept, but be grateful for, those things we
You can disagree with me on this last lesson. Many of you will. Good luck with that!
Chris Mamula retired from a career as a physical therapist at age 41. This is an abridged version of his post “5 Lessons From 3 Years of Early Retirement” first published on the blog “Can I Retire Yet?”